Through the end of 2016, Kaitlyn and I were running buddies. Each race that she ran, I was there to guide her to the finish. Then, 2017 came along, and Kaitlyn decided that she wanted to run races solo.
It was easy for me to be OK with her running her first 5k by herself since it started and finished at her school, and the course traced a neighborhood that we frequent when we go for walks as a family. Plus, with so many of her friends and school staff out there running and supporting the runners, there was little chance that she would go off course (and she didn’t).
Picking her next solo race was tough for me. I wanted to enter her into one that would be on a relatively closed course, which means I had to find one that didn’t get her too close to the crazies who take to the streets around here. I settled on one that benefits our local Girl Scouts, the Run 4 the Cookies 5k.
Throughout the week, I kept checking with Kaitlyn to make sure that she didn’t want me to run with her, and she assured me that she didn’t; Amber kept telling me that she would be fine, too.
We showed up this morning at the site of the race, our local community college, ready to race. Kaitlyn told me her race strategy, and assured me one more time that she was running this one solo.
I ran next to her for about 100 yards after the start, then I was on my way. I saw Kaitlyn on the course twice during the race, once right before mile 1 and again right before mile 2, and it made me happy to see that she was pushing herself and that she was having a blast.
I finished a little bit ahead of Kaitlyn, so I was waiting for her when she crossed the finish line. She finished in 31:02, which shaved over 2 minutes off of her first solo 5k time.
As we were walking back to the car, Kaitlyn kept asking when she could run another race by herself (she wants to use these as practice for when she tries out for cross country in middle school this fall), and I told her we would have to look at the calendar to see which ones looked interesting to her. For me though, not running with her and crossing the finish line with her signals another part of her that I have to let go, and while I know it is inevitable, it doesn’t mean I have to like it (I know I will get to run at least one race with her…the Turkey Trot 10k in November).
Amber and I are extremely proud of Kaitlyn’s determination to succeed and keep getting better with each race she runs. Before too long, I think she will spend a lot of Saturday mornings riding with me to one race or another. I can’t wait!
It’s just about time to send 2016 into the books. And honestly, it has been a long time coming.
For Kaitlyn, 2016 has been a year of ups and downs.
There was the extreme joy in being part of Jen and Ethan’s special day back in February.
Her first experience with math competitions turned out great, too.
Kaitlyn continued to excel in school, making the honor roll each grading period and blowing her reading goals out of the water, too.
April brought Kaitlyn her greatest joy, as Jen and Ethan welcomed their son to the world. It’s been a tad over 8 months since that day, and there hasn’t been a day that Kaitlyn hasn’t inquired about him and thought about him. She even included him, along with Jen and Ethan, in a speech she gave for the Tropicana Speech competition in December.
Summer came along, and Kaitlyn turned 10 in style. After spending some time in Gatlinburg, we made our way to Nashville, and Kailtyn celebrated her birthday at the Grand Ole Opry, and had her name in lights and also her special day announced to the crowd and those listening on the radio. It was really cool!
August also brought heartbreak as Kaitlyn’s great grandmother passed away. She struggled to come to grips with her passing, and still gets down on occasion when she thinks about her; the holidays weren’t exactly easy for her.
We made what is probably going to be our annual trip to Charlotte in November to visit Jen and Ethan, and Kaitlyn hasn’t stopped asking when she can go back and spend more time there.
Kaitlyn and I ran our last Turkey Trot 5k on Thanksgiving; next year we are running the 10k.
Our Christmas Eve tradition continued this year as well. Kaitlyn just loves going over to spend the evening with the Sinclairs; Amber and I do, too, of course!
Overall, 2016 was just an OK year. Hopefully 2017 will be so much better, and hopefully I will write a little more, too!
Amber and I found out today that it is never easy delivering bad news. Today was the first time that we had to break the news to Kaitlyn that a family member had passed away.
I knew something was wrong when Amber called me at 7:23 this morning. When I saw that she was calling as Kaitlyn and I were walking out the door, I figured/feared that she had gotten into an accident or something. I was way off. I could tell by her voice that it was something way worse than an accident. Amber let me know that her granny, Kaitlyn’s great granny passed away this morning.
We agreed that there was no way that we were going to let Kaitlyn know before school, so I did my best to not let on that there was something wrong.
Unfortunately, Amber had the task of telling Kaitlyn the news. It was as bad as we feared it would be. Kaitlyn was crushed. As I write this, she is still a mess.
Kaitlyn had become very fond of her great granny over the last several years. She loved going to visit her and staying in her big house on the lake, and just spending time with her. They would talk about how Kaitlyn was doing in school, what granny was up to, politics, and so much more; it was quite fascinating to sit back and listen to an octogenarian and an elementary school student talk politics as good or better than most “experts” on TV.
Kaitlyn lost a wonderful great granny today, and the world lost a caring, often stubborn, always thoughtful woman today. There will be a void for Kaitlyn for quite some time, but Amber and I will make sure to ensure that she thinks about of the great times the two of them had together.
Amber and I appreciate the outpouring of support via texts and phone calls, and that one very special delivery of flowers. As Kaitlyn works through her emotions, we are so grateful that we have so many friends and family we can count on to be there for us.
Summer is just about over. Kaitlyn had a rather busy summer between going to camp, going on vacation, and spending time in Iowa. It seems like the last day of school was just yesterday, and now the first day of school is less than a week away.
This past Sunday, Kaitlyn was Skyping with my parents, and the subject of the first day of school came up. They asked her if she was excited that school starts soon. Her answer was classic Kaitlyn.
“No, not really,” she said. That was an odd response given how much Kaitlyn loves school, so the logical follow-up question was posed. Why? “There’s no real learning the first week.” Makes sense. Kaitlyn went on to explain that, sure, you learn about your new classmates and your teacher, but you don’t really learn too much else.
Kaitlyn is not a real fan of wasting days not learning anything, which is the entire point of going to school in the first place. Despite the fact that Kaitlyn won’t be learning much (apparently) the first week, she’ll be there every day, paying attention, doing her best to learn about her classmates and teacher, and on any assignments she is given.
It’s hard to believe that fifth grade is right around the corner, but Amber and I are excited about what the year will bring for Kaitlyn. We know she’ll be challenged and she will grow, and she will work hard and excel. Most of all, Kaitlyn will continue to do her best, and Amber and I will be with her every step of the way, supporting and encouraging her.
For the first time in 28 days, Kailyn is home. She had herself quite the adventure over the last four weeks, too. During the last 28 days, Kaitlyn visited 12 states and saw so many amazing things, and had a great time doing it.
We left for our vacation on June 18, and our trip took us from Florida, through Georgia and North Carolina, and stopped in Tennessee for a week. Kaitlyn spent her 10th birthday at the Grand Ole Opry, which set the bar for future birthdays (she already wants to go back to Nashville and the Opry soon).
From Nashville, we drove up to Paducah and met Amber’s mom, and Kaitlyn was off to spend three weeks in Iowa. While she was in Iowa, she helped in the garden, played with new born kittens (they all stayed up there thankfully), baked, sewed, and hiked through the woods. She also had the opportunity to visit the Minnesota Zoo, and took a trip the Mall of America; she was in awe when she walked into the two story American Girl store.
During the three weeks she was in Iowa, I think it is safe to say that Amber’s mom got to see every side of Kaitlyn, and it was a learning experience. She had to deal with Kaitlyn’s grumpiness in the mornings, her non-stop talking, and the fact that it is really difficult for her to sit still. Dealing with the Full Kaitlyn Experience is not as easy as Amber and I make it look sometimes, that’s for sure.
There were moments when Kaitlyn was extremely homesick, too, and they came up before bed for the most part. Her stay in Iowa was not only the longest she had been away from us, but also the furthest she had been away; she had spent full weeks during the last few Spring Breaks in Central Florida, and the occasional weekend in Orlando or Atlanta, but those places are all within a few hours of us; Iowa was a full 20 hour drive away, so it wasn’t like Amber or I could just go get her when she needed us. She survived though.
It’s important for Kaitlyn, and it makes things better for everyone, when she is involved and on-board with what is going on. She likes to be a part of the planning, and likes her input to matter. She almost always has to be engaged in doing something; sure, she enjoys playing the occasional video game, but that is usually a short-term answer because she thrives on actually doing things. Amber’s mom is fully aware of that now.
Amber and I left the house yesterday around 5:00am to start the journey to meet up with Amber’s mom and bring Kaitlyn home. While they were heading south through St. Louis, we made our way north through Montgomery and Birmingham, over to Memphis, and to Marion, Arkansas. Once the package was secured, we retraced our route and began the trek back; we made it back to Montgomery, where we stopped for the night. Instead of coming straight home today, we drove down to Destin for some back-to-school shopping; it was a somewhat fruitful trip since Kaitlyn came home with the backpack she wanted. We finally made it home around 4:00pm today after logging right at 1,200 miles in the car over 20 hours (the back roads in Alabama slowed us down some).
For Kaitlyn, the last 28 days were quite the adventure. She saw a lot of the country, too, from here in Florida, to Georgia, North Carolina, Tennessee, Kentucky, Illinois, Missouri, Iowa, Minnesota, Arkansas, Mississippi, and Alabama. She saw the Smoky Mountains and visited the Grand Ole Opry; she crossed the Mississippi River (twice) and saw the Gateway Arch, and so much more. What a summer adventure.