“She’s so polite!”
“What a sweetheart!”
“That was so nice of her…”
And the list goes on and on. Think of a superlative, and Amber and I have probably heard it about Kaitlyn. All over stuff that we don’t even give a second thought to.
It really is appreciated each and every time someone complements Kaitlyn on her manners. We have worked really hard with her from almost day one to instill acting at least somewhat proper around people; we’ve had her saying “please” and “thank you” from the time she could talk. And we didn’t just have her blindly saying those things. We taught her what they meant, and the power that those words can have.
Think about it. How many times have you been out somewhere and noticed that using just the slightest hint of manners has opened doors for you that were closed for others? That’s the power of manners, and that is why we have taught Kaitlyn to be respectful and have good manners when we are around other people (we would love for her to do that constantly, but you pick your battles).
Amber and I rarely worry how Kaitlyn will behave when we are out. We know that she will be respectful of all of the adults present, and she will be kind to any kids around. It also never gets old for us to hear her be complimented for having good manners, too.
Of course, we have also extended our expectations to anytime she gets any sort of gift. Without fail, and sometimes with some complaining (she is 8 after all), Kaitlyn will make a “thank you” card or phone call. Because that is important.
Kaitlyn will always have her struggles when it comes to social interactions and situations, and that is an undeniable fact. What Amber and I hope we are doing and have started on, is helping her with a basic skill of being in a social setting. It’s work, and it takes a daily effort, but it is worth it.
Thank you for reading and continuing to do so. I enjoy sharing glimpses into our lives and the good and the not-so-good (mostly good) that comes from raising a child with Asperger’s.