Too Trusting

Kaitlyn is very trusting.  Almost too trusting.  We’ll see how it plays out over the coming years, but right now, she just blindly trusts what people say.  Especially her friends at school.

A few examples:

*She told one of her friends how much she likes The Band Perry, and how she wrote them a letter.  Her friend responded that she is friends with them, and she talks to them a lot.

*The same friend also, when Kaitlyn told her about our cruise, proclaimed that she was also going on a Disney cruise the same week we were, just on a different ship.

*Speaking of Disney cruises, another of her friends told Kaitlyn that she has already been on three Disney cruises, on three of their ships.  This may or may not be true, but it is rather convenient that the one ship she has not been on is the one we are sailing on this summer.

*And finally, one of her friends told her that she gets to go to Disney every 10 weeks.  That’s right, every 10 weeks, this friend and her family drive 4-5 hours for the weekend to go to Disney.  Doubtful.  Kaitlyn’s teacher and her family go quite frequently, but we are fairly certain that those trips are legit; this friend, on the other hand, not so much.

Amber and I understand that Kaitlyn is very trusting.  She is not wired to search for ulterior motives from people, so what she is told she tends to take as truth.  In her world, nobody is trying to deceive her at all.  She cannot see that her friends are merely trying to one-up her every time she tells them about an upcoming trip or something else that she is interested in.

As parents, all Amber and I can do is instill in Kaitlyn knowledge of what is right and what is wrong.  While her friends are not causing any real harm in one-upping her, that will not always be the case.  When the time comes and Kaitlyn will have to make a choice based off of either right or wrong or trusting her friends, Amber and I have to be confident that she will make it based off of her sense of right and wrong.



One response

  1. That’s definitely going to present some challenges — and that kind of behavior happens among kids that age anyway, but it’s gotta be hard seeing Kaitlyn’s “not seeing ulterior motives” be something that can hurt or confuse her. Thank you for sharing this; it helps understand the challenges of Aspergers.

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